This hit a real chord with me especially around the perversion of real trauma to serve their narcissistic ends. As someone who has been on the end of narcissism and true trauma (same diagnosis as you), I have also had my experience undermined by the claimimg of language. I can no longer describe my pain without sounding like a whiny teen. Especially around the word "triggered" which conjures up an image of that meme where a teens face is contorted in contempt as thei spit vitriole at the person who has offended them. "When genuine trauma survivors do tell their stories, unless they spin it towards an inspiration narrative, they will be delicately ignored, as the harrowing reality that their tales force the average person to face is too depressing." - this is my experience also and it compounds the (real) trauma people are living with. It takes courage for people to tell their story and then they are dismissed. So, I just wanted to say. I see your courage in sharing this.
I know a fair few women who feel this frustration, myself included. 'Horror movie' is very apt. I think that's the problem, people simply can't (or refuse to) imagine it. Thank you for commenting x
I know what you mean. First the trauma, then it's compounded by being dismissed and compared to mild inconvenience, as violence is compared to being offended. It diminishes real suffering and co-opts our language so we cannot even explain it any more. It's the same as their taking the word "woman" - we will no longer be able to discuss our experiences due to our sex as the word will cease to lose any meaning. So sorry you are also experiencing this Sarah with an H and Nina.
Nina - I rarely comment on anything online - but I just wanted to commend you for writing this blog, and to say 'thank you'. Because
(1) the way you write is just so clear and powerful it really is superb; and
(2) the subject(s) on which you write really could not be more important
Please keep it up. Your courage and integrity shine through each piece you write. And I do so hope that your voice will be heard and echoed loudly enough, and your sentiments and message shared widely enough, that it may help curtail - and hopefully bring a peaceful end (which can't come soon enough) - to the madness that you have characterised so brilliantly here.
Thank you so much Emily for taking the time to comment, and for leaving such uplifting words for me to read. I am inspired by the courage and integrity of so many women speaking out on this subject. I'm thankful my humble blog is making some kind of small impact. All the best, Nina X
This hit a real chord with me especially around the perversion of real trauma to serve their narcissistic ends. As someone who has been on the end of narcissism and true trauma (same diagnosis as you), I have also had my experience undermined by the claimimg of language. I can no longer describe my pain without sounding like a whiny teen. Especially around the word "triggered" which conjures up an image of that meme where a teens face is contorted in contempt as thei spit vitriole at the person who has offended them. "When genuine trauma survivors do tell their stories, unless they spin it towards an inspiration narrative, they will be delicately ignored, as the harrowing reality that their tales force the average person to face is too depressing." - this is my experience also and it compounds the (real) trauma people are living with. It takes courage for people to tell their story and then they are dismissed. So, I just wanted to say. I see your courage in sharing this.
Thank you for commenting and sharing this. It's a small comfort knowing we're not alone. C-PTSD is a nightmare to live with, I see your courage too x
Same. It frustrates me to no end that the horror movie that was my life is compared to mild inconvenience.
I know a fair few women who feel this frustration, myself included. 'Horror movie' is very apt. I think that's the problem, people simply can't (or refuse to) imagine it. Thank you for commenting x
Thank you for writing a thought provoking piece.
I know what you mean. First the trauma, then it's compounded by being dismissed and compared to mild inconvenience, as violence is compared to being offended. It diminishes real suffering and co-opts our language so we cannot even explain it any more. It's the same as their taking the word "woman" - we will no longer be able to discuss our experiences due to our sex as the word will cease to lose any meaning. So sorry you are also experiencing this Sarah with an H and Nina.
Nina - I rarely comment on anything online - but I just wanted to commend you for writing this blog, and to say 'thank you'. Because
(1) the way you write is just so clear and powerful it really is superb; and
(2) the subject(s) on which you write really could not be more important
Please keep it up. Your courage and integrity shine through each piece you write. And I do so hope that your voice will be heard and echoed loudly enough, and your sentiments and message shared widely enough, that it may help curtail - and hopefully bring a peaceful end (which can't come soon enough) - to the madness that you have characterised so brilliantly here.
Thank you so much Emily for taking the time to comment, and for leaving such uplifting words for me to read. I am inspired by the courage and integrity of so many women speaking out on this subject. I'm thankful my humble blog is making some kind of small impact. All the best, Nina X
Great piece of writing Nina 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Thank you Rachel, and for taking the time to comment <3 x